Mistakes, Failing To Lear
“Mistakes are part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can be learned the hard way. Unless it’s a fatal mistake, which , at least, others can learn from.” -Al Franken
The truth is making mistakes can be somewhat of an art, if you let it shape you into a better person. And I say art because each of us, make many mistakes, every day. As humans, we are not perfect. And we cannot ever be perfect, but we can strive to the best versions of ourselves, daily. Every time I’ve ever made a mistake it has done one of two things, made me a better person or made me bitter, cold and angry. Being bitter, cold or angry is not the type of person I am nor do I enjoy feeling those emotions. It’s always been a goal of mine to look at the big picture and see what’s truly important because it would help make me a better, me. And one of the very biggest thing’s I’ve learned through making mistakes, is how to forgive others when they make mistakes. How could I possibly expect to be forgiven, if I cannot forgive my sister, brother, friend, boyfriend or husband? It would be extremely selfish to not forgive others—yet, expect to be forgiven. Sadly, there are people in the world like this and I have encountered them, developed relationships with them and let me just say, they go sour, real fast.
Agency, oh lodry, there’s so much I can say about agency. It’s important and it’s vital, the minute you take away the agency of another human being, you’re frankly, being an asshole, so stop because it’s not cool and it’s the beginning of a very poisonous friendship/relationship. If you are a part of someone’s life right now and they are just making mistakes left and right, let them be—I’ve learned that one of the hardest things to do in this life is let the person you love make mistakes.
You become, frantic, uneasy and not yourself and you do things out of the ordinary because it feels like things might go back on course. This is where you need to take a step back and ask yourself a few questions:
Why am I acting this way? When I was being an asshole to my friend, I didn’t know that the reason I was so protective is because of the loss in my life and the problems that my dad caused, my brain just developed in a way where I didn’t want to lose anymore. The hardest battle of my life was fighting co-dependency and currently, a few other trials in my life. And the best part of all these trials is what I have learned along the way, I learned that true friends don’t go when you make mistakes, they support you and try to help you get back on track—which is what I constantly tried to do, too much. The healthy way to look out for someone is to talk about things and then let them play out—but only if this means that person is going to be okay, physically(you know what I mean), no danger to themselves or others.
The funny thing that I learned is that my “best friend,” walked out on me when I was a danger to myself—sweet deal, huh? And they would have rather me die than ever think about being strong, humble and Christ-like. And I want to ask you now, what are you learning from your current situation in life? I’m hoping that I can touch some lives here with a slight paradigm shift, I want everybody to know that mistakes are a part of life, some people act out because of disorders like, anxiety, codependency, bipolar disorders and so much more.
I learned it’s okay to be abandoned sometimes, you learn to love yourself—you matter. If you can’t love yourself, how do expect to ever love another human being, with the fullest potential possible? Remember, we all make mistakes, find the bigger picture, apply it and learn from it.
Then work on forgiveness—it will set you free.